Human Condition

Why do we crave "restart?"

There's a friction that we should accept- that is that nothing will be perfect and that we will never be enough by our own standards. If we can accept that, our goals and ambitions become less about being and more about becoming.

It’s the afternoon of January 1, 2020 and there’s a refreshed feeling as the calendar flips, time resets for a new decade, and motivation is ripe in the air. You know the feeling- possibilities are here again.

Restart. Refresh. New. Beginning.

We love it, we crave it, so much so that it’s not just a new year, but can be a new week, a new month, a new job, a new car, a new gym, a new phone, a new camera, new new new… all satisfying that internal craving we so desire- another chance.

Why though? Simply, because we failed to finish, failed to complete, failed to do what we set out to do the first time. We’ve all been there- our routine, our streak, or our strive for perfection is altered, misguided, interrupted and thus, the end of our motivation. (This is interesting to think about too- why we constantly work towards perfection too) *If you’ve got an opinion or take, email or DM to discuss*

Does a restart ever equate to anything though? According to studies done by Psychology Today, the restart only helps if there’s been a recent failure. You can read more about the full study here.

We often will quit or think we need to move on and restart something that we haven’t actually failed at. The key is to look at goals and ambitions with singular focus rather than in totality. Example: if the goal is to lose 25 lbs. and you’ve already lost 10, have a rhythm, and are maybe just a tad inconsistent, most will completely abandon. It’s a failure rather than progress. What should be altered is the mindset and focus to being consistent rather than perfect or “target hitting.”

In 2020, let’s shoot for “consistency.” Consistent imperfection really is the goal. If we can show up, take more pictures, workout more for the mental/physical health reasons, be more present with my family, and encourage someone everyday or (insert any goal or habit)- we will be on our way to fulfillment, contentment, and wholeness.

“There’s a friction that we should accept- that is that nothing will be perfect and that we will never be enough by our own standards. If we can accept that, our goals and ambitions become less about being and more about becoming.”

That’s enough for anyone.

May you have a blessed year of becoming.

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